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Are You Getting What You Want Or What You expect?

I sayYou get what you ask for, or you get what you expect.

Have you ever noticed that people who speak negatively about themselves and others, act negatively, and expect the worst, seem to have a lot of bad things happen to them? And have you noticed that people who speak kind and positive things about themselves and others, and expect the best, get the best?

I always thought this was a coincidence at, but I’m beginning to see the truth in this as I apply this principal to my own life.

In this podcast, I discuss how expecting the best has affected my life, when applying for a job after being bullied (see also How I Dealt With Being Bullied At Work), and in expecting gods bless ing and provision for my life.

What are you thinking about? Are you getting what you want, or are you getting what you expect?

Are You Compelled To Follow Your Dream?

Moving from Corporate to Business

In my last post, I asked if you had a dream, and mentioned that there were 10 questions that you could ask yourself to determine whether your dream is worth pursuing. This post will deal with one of those questions which is, the question of passion, i.e. does your dream compel you to follow it?

In his book, “Put Your Dream To The Test”, John Maxwell defines passion as:

”… an enthusiasm that not only gives you energy and focus in the present, but also gives you power to keep moving toward the future. It gives you fuel to pursue your dream.”

When I started my first business, after being made redundant, I thought that it was my passion. Everything was all shiny, new and exciting, and I had a great time. However, when things got tough, when I couldn’t find customers and didn’t meet my sales goals, I would get terribly discouraged and would stop working in my business.

One christmas, I got together with a colleague and arranged a product launch. Between us, we invited about 100 people to the launch, but only a handful turned up. I was so upset, that I didn’t do any work in my business for over a week, and considered quitting altogether!

After doing some soul searching last year, I came to the conclusion that, while I loved the products, and enjoyed sharing them with others, it really wasn’t enough to keep me going, particularly when times were tough. I also discovered that my main motivation for continuing with the business was so that people wouldn’t say to me “I told you you’d never succeed at that”. I still exclusively use the products, and am always recommending them to others, but it’s not my passion.

However, in my current business, when things don’t go the way I want, I may still get discouraged for a few hours. But, sometimes I don’t get discouraged at all, and I’m increasingly seeing these times as opportunities to learn, or change direction.

In my first business, i used to toss and turn at night, and try and figure out how I could get more sales. In my current business, I wake suddenly from a sound sleep, with a great idea for a new blog post, or a revelation about how I can better serve my customers. Sometimes I get so excited that I can’t get back to sleep!

It’s almost like my passion won’t let me give up! It’s what keeps me going through the tough times, towards the success of achieving my dream.

Are you passionate about your dream? Does it compel you to follow it? Please let me know in the comments section, or if you prefer, please contact me directly.

I will be running a mastermind on “Put Your Dream To the Test” at the end of August. Participants will have the chance to exchange thoughts and ideas, learn from each other’s experiences, and put their dreams to the test.

If you are interested in participating in this mastermind, or would like more information, please contact me. Places are limited, and will be filled on a first come, first serve basis, so please act now to avoid disappointment.

An Attitude of Gratitude Can Attract Blessing

Personal Development for Career Professionals

It’s amazing how much our attitude can affect the way we react to our circumstances. It’s even more amazing how our attitude can affect what happens to us.

On checking out of my room at the MGM Grand in Las Vegas, where I had attended a company conference, I found that I had 5 hours with nothing to do, as all my friends were either travelling or otherwise occupied. When I asked where I could sit to spend the time, the staff very kindly took me to the VIP lounge.

How disappointing, I thought, to spend the last 5 hours in a place as exciting as Vegas, stuck in a lounge, particularly as I was due to go on a 12 hour flight that night back to Australia. Then I remembered that a colleague had told me that, if I was to become more grateful for what I had, I would attract more of what I wanted into my life. So I decided to give myself a challenge and give it a go. I decided that I was grateful for the comfy chair, the free wifi, the free snacks, and the fact that I was sitting in the VIP lounge, when I certainly wasn’t a VIP!

Some time later, when I was catching up on some training videos I had meant to watch for a while, who should tap me on the shoulder and start talking to me, but the CEO of the company! This was a woman who I greatly admire and respect, and who I never thought I would meet, let alone chat with. I told her that meeting her had made the next few hours I would spend here worth it. As she left, she said: “you simply must eat before you go. Please have whatever you want and charge it to the company account”. I was amazed!

Quite some time later, a man entered the lounge and introduced himself as the head butler at the MGM grand. “I’ve never met a butler”, I said in surprise. He laughed and said, “I hear you’re hungry. Please follow me”.

“Where are we?” I asked a few minutes later, as the butler seated me at a table set for dinner. “This is skyline, a hotel within a hotel, which is where all the famous people stay” he said, and my jaw dropped. “Your company is a good client of ours, and I thought it was easier to bring you up here for your meal”.

The butler and I conversed on many topics as I ploughed my way through the biggest sandwich I’ve ever seen in my life, and a bowl of chips that could serve as a meal on its own. I love america!

As the butler filled my water glass for the third time, the hotel manager, of all people, appeared with my suitcase, and asked if anyone had booked transport for me. I said that I was going to book a cab to the airport, and he said “don’t worry about that, we’ll take you in one of our cars”. Little did I know what was in store!

We all went down stairs, me on the butler’s arm, and the hotel manager wheeling my suitcase. I felt like a princess. This feeling of royalty was magnified when I discovered that the car that was to take me to the airport was a Rolls-Royce! I thought only the queen had one of those!

As I glided to the airport in the back of the Rolls, I pondered the events of the afternoon. I became convinced that, had I remained disappointed and ticked off about how things had turned out, the CEO would never have spoken to me, and I would never have experienced the dream afternoon that I had. So, I am living proof that an attitude of gratitude really can attract blessing.

If you’ve got anything out of this post, please let me know in the comments section or, if you prefer, contact me directly.