In my last few posts, I’ve been covering the questions you need to ask about your dream to see if it is worth following. My question for this post is, have you included the people you need to realise your dream?
“It marks a big step in your development when you come to realise that other people can help you do a better job than you can do alone” – Andrew Carnegie
“A dream is a compelling vision you see in your heart that’s too big to accomplish without the help of others” – Chris Hodges.
I think that, one of the hardest things for some people to do is ask for help in achieving their dreams. It’s certainly the case with me.
When I started my first business, I was surrounded by a wonderful community of people who were very ready and willing to help me. But I rarely called on them, and only asked for help when I was really stuck. For some reason, I felt that I had to build my business all by myself.
When I started my current business, there were a number of things that I had to do which I found difficult, including dealing with the visual side of social media, and building a website. Being totally blind, pictures pose quite a challenge for me. I’d waste hours trying to get a picture the right size for a particular purpose, such as for use in a twitter or Facebook header, and then find out that I’d posted it sideways or upside-down!
I decided I needed some coaching on this with a good friend and mentor. She helped me realise that there was no shame in asking for help, particularly in an area in which I didn’t have the skill required for the task. After some discussion, I realised that many people, both blind and sighted, call upon others to help them do things that they may not have the skill or the time to do themselves. My friend pointed out that I had no trouble having a cleaner clean my house, as I’m not good at it, and it takes me a long time. So what was the difference in asking someone to help me with the visual side of my website, or resize pictures for posting on twitter?
This invaluable coaching session has now saved me much wasted time, which is much better used on doing things that I am good at in my business. I still occasionally fall into the trap of wanting to do picture-related things by myself, as the problem solving part of my brain kicks in and says “surely, there must be a way”. However, I’m only wasting minutes now, instead of hours, before I realise that I need to ask for help.
I am blessed to have wonderful friends and mentors who are willing to help me in achieving my dream, and am so grateful that I was open to learning the lesson of asking for help. Who do you need to include in realising your dream? Please let me know in the comments section, or if you prefer, please contact me directly.
I will be running a mastermind on “Put Your Dream To the Test” at the end of August. Participants will have the chance to exchange thoughts and ideas, learn from each other’s experiences, and put their dreams to the test.
If you are interested in participating in this mastermind, or would like more information, please contact me. Places are limited, and will be filled on a first come, first serve basis, so please act now to avoid disappointment.